So the school year begins and some things end...

It's been a hard end of summer.  A few weeks ago our cat, Amelia, passed away.  She was over 20 years old and I know she lived a great life with lots of love.  The hardest part of this is my little girl.  She was devastated.  J was away and it happened so quickly.  She stopped eating Tuesday night and Wednesday in the middle of the night she became so weak she couldn't make it to her litter box.  I told G in the morning to say goodbye because she probably wouldn't be with us.  She just walked downstairs and didn't say anything and went into her tent.  A minute later she came out hysterical.  She wanted to go with me to the vet to say goodbye.  I knew it wouldn't be a good idea with me on my own.  I reached out to the ABA therapist and she said she'd come by and we could all go together.  I had an appointment at 3pm.  I wasn't sure Amelia would make it till 3 but I didn't have a choice.  She slept by her water dish, then I moved her to her bed.  She stayed there sleeping till I had to pick her up.  She was so close to dying in my arms.  I kept my cool and got her in her carrier.  She didn't pick up her head or struggle.  She made gurgling noises but remained alive.  I didn't say anything in the car.  I just drove to the vet.  The Dr said her heartbeat was really slow and asked me if I wanted them to give her a shot to help her go to sleep.  G was inconsolable and I was having a hard time controlling my emotions as well.  The Vets office let us stay there as long as we needed.  I needed G to calm down and I needed to stop crying as well.  This was the hardest thing I ever had to do.  

After this event, we moved on to J coming home and attending G's orientation with her teacher.  After that, G didn't sleep Wed or Thurs night with the anticipation of the first day of school coming.  After getting 2 write ups at daycare in one day, I was ready for school to begin and a new routine to start.  

It's been a full week and so far she's doing well.  Her teacher said she's a great student.  She had her first gymnastics class on Saturday and she did amazing.   We also went to the pool and we invited her friend and mom to come along.  It was all going well till the floated popped.  Then she cried her eyes out.  Then I said it was time to go and she through a tantrum. A really big tantrum.  Screaming, crying, carrying on the entire time to the car and home.  I'm trying to give her some grace with school starting and everything.  I know she doesn't do well with change.  Also, she had a change in meds so I can see that being an issue.  Sunday went better when we went to the pool.  I warned her if she had another episode we won't be going next weekend.  

Anyway, her new issue is her disrespect to me.  She calls me stupid and dumb.  Says she hates me, etc.. This has been happening all weekend.  It's not very nice and I'll be bringing it up with the ABA therapists on our call today.  I'm tired of being the bad guy.  Always on her back to do something.  Sometimes I'd like J to be that guy sometimes.  

ABA therapy and strange viruses...

 So we've begun intense ABA therapy daily and even all day on Saturday's.  G goes back and forth with bad behavior depending on who is here.  She doesn't like it when she feels like someone is ruining her fun but she's really showing poor judgement.  It's not ok to just walk out the door without asking us first.  It's not ok to climb over the couch instead of walking around it.  It's not ok to just go through the pantry or fridge and just take whatever you feel like.  They are trying to correct her and she doesn't like it. Last night was Friday and we stayed in instead of going out.  She was hungry and not acting ok in the car.  J was going to see if she was doing well, we can go out but as soon as she started throwing things, he said no way now.  Anyway, she was very hungry and tired.  She wound up falling asleep next to the cat in my office.  The ABA therapist sat with her.  Next thing she hears is the snoring.  Overall, she did ok with sleeping even though she had napped for at least an hour.  

J on the other hand has himself stressed to the max.  Someone says a possible diagnosis and now he's in a tailspin of depression, yelling at me, etc.  I can't say a word without getting snapped at.  It's a lot to deal with these days.  I'm sort of done with it all.  I'm ready for him to die and me figure out how to dig ourselves out of the financial mess we're in without him around.  I mean he's convinced his life is over then maybe I need to accept that and just prepare for it.  I try supporting him but unless I totally agree with him dying, I get yelled at.  I'm so sick of it all.  I live on eggshells in my own house when I'm around him.  He stays upstairs all morning/afternoon and I don't see him unless he comes downstairs for lunch when I'm eating.  He doesn't help me around the house, no cleaning up anything.  It's all on me to do.  I work all day and in-between, I try and clean something up.  It's the best I can do right now.  I take care of the bills, cook dinner, clean up after dinner, take care of getting G dressed for the day, undressed for the night, brushing her teeth, washing her face, brushing her hair, washing her up, taking her to fun places to have fun, etc.  

JUST EXHAUSTED AND READY TO CALL IT QUITS ON LIFE.  

Did I say that loud enough?

Drained...

It's been a long week.  We made it through.  It was hard.  J is back home and Giuli is happier than ever.  I'm still trying to work on getting Giuli to listen to me.  Sometimes she just ignores me and does what she wants.  Yesterday, the daycare tried to help me by saying to her she needs to apologize for what she did. Sadly, she doesn't always seem to understand her actions.  And of course, lots of loud noises and crying on the way home as a result.  I wish I had the knowledge to fix what's going on inside of her.  We're still trying to find ABA care for her.  Just sitting on the waitlist and waiting for another to provide us with the assessment they did.  Everything takes so long to get done.  I'm glad her school started doing extra with her.  She goes to something called Lunch Bunch.  I think she likes it too.  Yesterday, she got 2 tokens so I told her if she can do that every day, I'll give her a matching dollar.  She wants to go to Target and she needs money for that.  Hoping a goal like that will give her incentive to do well in school.